15 Things to say when your boundaries are being challenged
1. This is not negotiable
2. Some things I allowed in the past, no longer work for me.
3. It's ok if you don't like what I'm saying, I need you to respect it if we are going to be able to occupy the same space. 
4. I mentioned this as a solution because I want to maintain the realationship.
5. We think differently about this, and I wont argue what is healthy for me.
6. My feelings are valid, and I need them to be ackowledged.
7. I've been clear about what I need, and I won't compromise on it.
8. Respecting my boundaries is essential for our relationship to thrive. 
9. I understand your perspective, but this is what I need to feel safe. 
10. I value our realtionship, but I also must value myself.
11. I am not comfortable with this and I need you to understand that.
12. My boundary is not about controlling you, it is about protecting me.
13. I cannot continue this conversation if my boundaries aren't respected.
14. Please understand that this is a non-negotiable part of my wellbeing. 
15. I've set this boundary becasue I care about myself, and I hope you can respect that. 

15 Things That Are Abuse
1. When your feelings, thoughts, and experiances are dismissed, making you doubt your own reality.
2. When you are given the silent treatment.
3. When your apperance, inteligence, or abilities are criticized.
4. When you are made responsble for someone elses emotions and/or reactions.
5. When your words are twisted and your truth dismissed.
6. When you are constantly blamed for things that go wrong. 
7. When your boundaries are repeadedly violated or ignored.
8. When you are isolated from freinds, family, or social activities.
9. When your aceivements or sucess are downplayed or ignored.
10. When you are subected to threats, even if they are not carried out.
11. When you experiance extreme jealousy or possesiveness.
12. When you are belittled or humiliated in frount of others
13. When guilt is used to manipulate your decisions or actions.
14. When there is an expectation to " Just get over it," without adressing your feeling or concerns
15. When there is a pattern of witholding affection, love or approval as punshment

15 Questions That Feel Like a Hug
1. Who in your life could you say loves you unconditionally?
2. Where do you go to feel closest to yourself?
3. What's the kindest thing anyone has ever said to you?
4. What song will instantly make you smile?
5. If you could go back and realive a day, whithout changing anything, what day would you go back to?
6. What memeory do you hold onto when you need to feel a sense of warmth and safety?
7. What moment in your life made you feel truely seen for who you are?
8. Who is someone that always makes you feel understood and accepted?
9.What is a small act of kindness you still remember years later?
10. When do you feel most at peace with yourself and the world around you?
11. If you could tell your younger self one thng what would it be?
12.What smell instantly brings back a flood of memories?
13. What is something that makes you feel at home, no matter where you are?
14. Who is someone who has been a constant support in your life?
15. What is a peice of advise that has stayed with you through the years?